Saturday, April 19, 2014

{NAS} Being Selfish + Good Friday

Howdy howdy!

Hmm... I haven't wanted to write this post. I have been avoiding it, really. But, my conscious (and God) have been telling me to reflect about my selfishness.

I have to be careful, though, because this type of reflection can lead me down a path that isn't very healthy where I don't think of myself in very positive ways, and thus don't think I deserve to be around people. Crazy and intense? Yes. But, that is my mind for you, and I think you all know me well enough to know that I am going to be as honest as I can around here. :)

Now, objectively, one could say that I am pretty unselfish... I am a nurse, for crying out loud!  I went to Honduras! I serve my church! I help with my friends' kids!  All of these things are true... and good... and are/were done out of a selfless desire.

But, it's the thoughts in my head. The feelings I get in the everyday, when my selfish side rears it's ugly head. It's not fun.

It's those moments when someone asks me to do something, and I am so inconvenienced by it, that I say mean and hurtful things in my head.  Never out loud, of course, but it doesn't make it any less sinful. I am not proud of this.

Because, of course, I will always follow through with whatever was asked of me, and end up enjoying it, or at least feeling satisfied that I was able to help and/or be of use in some way. It's in the asking and accepting part that I need to work on. I need to work on accepting things more humbly, without doing it begrudgingly. What I have found, recently, is that I am doing x, y and z, but I am starting to act like I am being inconvenienced. And who wants to be like that?? Not me! It's not fair. It's not fair to my friends who need my help. It's not fair to the kids I work with at school. It's not fair to my family. It's not fair to me- for I am selling myself short.

Most importantly, it's not fair to God. He sent His son down to this earth to suffer and die on a cross. For us. For me. He endured some of the most horrific things, because his Father asked him to do it. Sure, Jesus could have said no. But, He didn't.

As I was by myself for most of Good Friday, yesterday, staying away from the Internet, social media, not listening to music, etc, I found myself thinking a lot about my selfishness and Jesus' selfless act of love. We humans tend to be selfish in a lot of ways, and forget that Jesus died so that we don't have to be selfish. He sacrificed Himself, so that we know how to sacrifice for others. He has called us all to love in this way. As love is to give of yourself for the other person, being selfish, obviously, is all about you. It's not what God had intended, and we owe it to Him, and each other, to do our best at practicing the art of selfless love.

That's what I offered to Him, as I went up to venerate the cross. I kissed his wounded feet. His feet that carried Him, and the cross, to the place where He would prove to be the least selfish person that walked the earth. To realize the weight of my selfishness, and other sins, is overwhelming... and humbling.

This was from Easter when I was in Honduras.
Everyone had rope and we tied knots into it, which signified our sins.
When we venerated the cross, we hung our "sins" on Jesus.
Talk about an intense visual.

So, I pray that I will be able to accept this challenge. To not get so annoyed when people ask me to do things. To do more things for others, just because it's what you are supposed to do. And, I pray that each of you will be able to love more selflessly. Because, as Morgan wrote, the more you give of yourself, the more you desire to give of yourself. And the more this happens, the more you will not feel burdened by these opportunities.

I hope you all had a holy and reflective Good Friday. May His love and sacrifice encourage you to love others better!  And, have a wonderful, joyous and blessed Easter!

I am sure you all have wrote and linked up already, but if you haven't, be sure to head on over to Morgan's to get that taken care of! :)


Next Week!
Marriage
Most of us here feel called to the vocation of marriage...but what is it exactly that you're attracted to? What have you seen in others' marriages that you've learned from or would do differently? (maybe this is from married friends or your parents!)

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Happy Birthday, Mart!

This here blog has become a sort of love language for me.  I am way better at expressing myself with the written word, as opposed to speaking. I stumble over my words, have awkward pauses and usually end up crying (if it's something really serious or close to my heart), which is a whole bag of... superawkward and frustrating sometimes.

I always write a loooong message on cards for almost every occasion and, of course, thank you notes (I l-o-v-e LOVE thank you notes). :)  It's just how I roll.  I process things as I write them out.  I am not the best writer, but what you read, is what you get, really. I am alll me.

January 2006
Winter Retreat- MU
Before we were even really friends!
With that being said. Indulge me while I write some birthday thoughts and share some pics of my BFF, Martha.

Oh, Mart. I am not really sure where I should even begin.

First, let me just say that I love you. You are one of my closest friends, and I am so blessed and so honored to have you in my life. I seriously do not know what my life would be like without you in it.

You have become my family... I am so grateful for your love. I am so grateful for your prayers. For your encouragement. Enthusiasm. Empathy. Accountability. Jokes. Hugs. And sharing your adorable baby with me.

I know that I drive you crazy a lot of the time (especially in the car when you want me to turn and I
January 2007
Winter Retreat- MU
don't!) and say things that you don't understand.  But, you love me anyway.  You have seen me at my worst, when I have been mean, unloving, selfish, hurtful and not the funnest person to be around. You have loved me through it.  I don't know how I have been blessed with a friend like you. I am so undeserving.

But, God uses our friends to remind us of many things. Namely, that we are worthy and deserving of love. He uses our families, spouses, kids and friends to show us what true love is. And He no doubt, has placed you in my life to remind me of His love for me.

I will be forever grateful.

Thank you. Thank you for being my friend. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for bringing me into your family. Thank you for sharing your heart with me. Trusting me. Thank you for letting me be part of your daughter's life so intimately. I have no words to express what a gift Susannah is in my life.

And now... now I am not really sure how to end this. :)  Please know how much you mean to me. I hope you have such a wonderful birthday! It's your LAST year as a 20-something! Go crazy! Wait... you already did and died your hair red!!! ;) So many prayers and blessings and love for the next year and always.

Annnnnd, now more pics. Because I spent an absurd amount of time looking through Facebook at all of our pics and memories! You know you want to see which ones I have chosen. And, go!

July 2007
Lourdes, France (not Disney World!)
April 2008
Mart's bday in Coconut Beach, FL!
October 2008
Coll's birthday trip to 'Bama

June 2009
Tennessee
June 2009
Tennessee... same trip as above. It was too good not
to have two pics! :)

July 2009
WOOOO!

December 2010
Tuscaloosa, AL
The night Mart and Tom were engaged! :)
And, this might be one of the only few pics that exist for that year.

July 2011
The Oram Wedding

December 2012
A lot happened this year... I came home from Honduras and
the babe was born! And not many pics of Mart and me exist.

January 2013
Assisi, Italy
January 2014
Naples, FL ;)
Soooo many good memories!! We have traveled the world together and done some pretty awesome things! I hope to only continue them! Please go give some birthday love to Mart over on her blog, Twitter, Instagram... or any other way you know how to contact her! ;)

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Am I ready for an advanced degree?

I am a nurse. And, proud of it.

Did you know that? Did you even remember I was a nurse?

Yea.. I don't talk about it too much on here. After my last update on my current job, it was silent silent silent. 

After rereading that update from my first week on the new job, things really aren't all they are cracked up to be. It's sad. I am constantly bummed that I don't LOVE IT like I thought I would. Don't get me wrong.. it's not horrible. It's actually quite fun some days! But, overall... it's just a job.

And that really saddens my heart.

I love being a nurse, so therefore I want to love my job. Ya know? I know that our jobs shouldn't be our whole life, but when you are single and don't have a family of your own and you do spend the majority of your days at work... you kind of want to enjoy it... right?

Right. So, I am also constantly thinking about what else I want to do, where I should go from here, etc. Because, what I see as truly fulfilling and wonderful (wife and mom) isn't happening any time soon... I need to make more of an effort in this part of my life.

I have just started to skiiiiiiim the very tippytop surface of the idea of going back to school.

Which is still quite daunting.  Nursing school was hard.  I am not a school person... have never been an academic.  So, the idea of going back to school was never really on my radar.  I always told myself that I needed to have a really good idea/purpose for my advanced degree, if I were to dive back into school.  I need the motivation. I would burn out very quickly if I just went back to school because that is what you are supposed to do, or because everyone else thinks you should.

When I think back on my nursing career so far, the one constant thing that I have LOVED and reeeeeeeeally really enjoyed was working with nursing students/new grad nurses/teaching others about diseases, medications, etc.

Namely, education.

It brings me so much joy. Helping others see their potential, finally understand something they didn't get before, and building their confidence as a nurse or a parent with a child who has a new diagnosis.

I love it.  I had a wonderful opportunity this week to work with an LPN student, who shadowed me at work one day. It was wonderful! Hearing her stories. Feeling her enthusiasm. Sharing our love of helping people. And encouraging her and her path to eventually becoming a registered nurse.

It was gentle reminder of my passion for students. Being there in this most frustrating, stressful and crazy time! It's hard work becoming a nurse. But being there to support and to encourage and remind them that it is all worth it in the end.  To bring my love and joy of nursing to their world, when they might be questioning their ability to finish or doubt their choice on becoming a nurse in the first place.

But, to celebrate and rejoice when they finish! When they are able to tackle something they didn't think they knew how to do! Or when they have the confidence to take the 4 patient load with nary a worry or question! 

That's what is exciting to me.  Building up the future nurses to be the best and most confident they can be!

Last night I had another opportunity to speak to a few students at Ave Maria University about nursing. AMU is looking to start a nursing program in the Fall, so there are a few current students who are interested in nursing school.  We had a such a great time!  First, it was so fun being on a college campus again. Memories came flooding back from my years in school. Along with my RA ways! ha. It's funny what comes back to you as you walk around and see things in the halls of the dorms or the crazy kids running around campus. :)

I digress. The girls that came to listen to me ramble on and on my talk, were so sweet. They asked such good questions. They really didn't know much about nursing school or the endless opportunities being a nurse really gives you. Being able to talk about my love for the profession was fun and I hope it was encouraging to the girls!

And, yet again, it reinforced my love for students. To be another support for them.

And so... I find myself maybe a littlebitmore encouraged to take a more active step in looking at Master's programs. Most nursing programs (and even education departments in a hospital) require an advanced degree if you are going to work in that setting. So, if this is something that I feel strongly about, it's worth me pursuing that degree more seriously. Right? Right. Yikes!

Any nurses out there with advice?! 

Am I ready for this? Please pray for me! I am not sure where the Lord is calling me with this, but I am trying to be super open to it/Him. :)

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

NAS: First Date Dos & Don'ts

Before we begin... I just wanted to give a little love to Cindy over at The Veil of Chastity. Do you know her? Well, if you don't, she is awesome. She has a love and special place for us single ladies, as she was single until her mid-thirties, I believe (correct me if I am wrong, Cindy!). She writes about anything and everything involving singlehood, chastity, dating, authentic love, etc all from a Catholic perspective. It's pretty great. AND! She has been such a wonderful support and encouragement for the Not Alone Series. I am pretty sure she reads every single post every single week. Seriously, she is amazing. She really does care and pray for all of us. So! Please check her out and send some love her way. Mmmmkay?? Mmkay.

Ooooook. So, obviously I wasn't around last week. It was a bit of a crazy week. I had full intentions of writing, and then, well... didn't. I even started, but only got one line in. So, I have since changed it to this week's post! :)

What are those things that we should be doing, and the things that we shouldn't be doing? They can be from the physical parts (clothes to wear, places to go, things to say) or emotional parts (talking about it all the time, planning the future, etc). We can all learn something in hindsight, so what are your tips to share?

Oh, first dates. Does anyone really just love them?? I mean, I am not a huge fan. Now, granted I haven't been on a whole slew of them or anything, but... overall, I am usually a nervous wreck. For no reason, because they usually end up just fine. 

Anyway... looking back on the few that I have had, there are some things that I wish I did or did more of, and things that I wish I didn't. So, here is my list of First Date Dos and Don'ts.

DO:
Wear something that you are comfortable in.
(This is obvious, right? No sense in being nervous, awkward AND tugging at your uncomfortable duds all night!)
Let him plan as much as possible.
(Hopefully he will take charge of this! But, giving a few suggestions isn't a bad idea, if he really is struggling)
Go somewhere that is conducive for having a conversation.
(Again... this is obvious. The whole point of the date is to see if you are compatible! Watching a movie in silence does not make that possible.)
Ask him questions.
(Because everyone can talk about themselves, plus it shows that you are interested!)
Come up with questions to ask for those awkward silences. 
(I always have 3 or 4 open ended back up questions to ask, just in case there is a lull in convo, or if it's not going very well.)
Set a time limit.
(This is just a good idea. If it's at night, no unnecessary temptations, but, also, just to create boundaries from the get-go. Oh and if it's not going too well, you only have to endure it for a certain amount of time!) 
Have a plan of attack if the date is going downhill... fast.
(If he is horribly rude, you are uncomfortable, etc. have some sort of plan where you can leave. Maybe that's having a friend on standby to get you if needed, or to come up with an "emergency." Those situations are usually rare, but it never hurts to be prepared so that you don't get hurt or put yourself in danger.)
Tell someone where you will be and when you will be home.
(Similar to above, it's just better to be safe. Always tell a friend, mom, family member your plans so that if something does go wrong, someone knows the deal.)
Less worrying.
(Inevitably the date will be nice, it may not be TOTALLY AMAZING, but you will have a nice time. So, just stop worrying and enjoy it!!)

DON'T:
Tell everyone you know about it.
(This just guards your heart, really. The less people you tell, the less people you have to talk about it -and rehash it- if the date doesn't go all that well.)
Shoot down his very enthusiastic idea for the date JUST because it's out of your comfort zone.
(I may have done this... and it was stupid. I should have sucked it up and went with HIS idea. It wasn't a bad one, it's just one that I didn't think would be fun for me. Poor choice, really. Needless to say, after our date of doing something else, nothing ever happened.)
Talk about yourself all.of.the.time.
(I meeeeean... do I have to explain this one?!)
Make it a marathon date.
(This goes with the setting a time limit under the "Dos". If things are going well, let it end well, and plan for the next one!)
Drink too much.
(I just wanted to throw this in there because, well... you just never know.)
Get sick.
(If you can help it, that is. And I mean, like a fever/cold/flu sick... if you were curious)

I know there are a lot more! What do you have on your list? What have you learned from past experiences?! Link up below!



Next Week!
Selfish Singles
How do you combat being selfish with your time? As a single person, it's easy to get caught up in our own little independent world. There are those moments when we are needed for extra church things, hanging with our friend's kids, getting caught up with something on the one night you could stay in, etc. where we get frustrated that the needs of others are taking away from our own time. How do you avoid this selfish tendency and what do you do to avoid becoming frustrated with "sharing" your time with others?

April 22
Marriage
Most of us here feel called to the vocation of marriage...but what is it exactly that you're attracted to? What have you seen in others' marriages that you've learned from or would do differently? (maybe this is from married friends or your parents!)


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Sunday, April 6, 2014

A Week (or more) in Pics

What is cuter than a baby in a tutu drinking tea??
Nothing. 
Bahahaha... I put Zuz's baby down and didn't realize she had fallen back,
this is how she was when I turned around.
Holding on with one little plastic toe. ;)

Yummy breakfast one morning.

It's never too early to teach about household chores. :)

Post bath adorableness.

And this one, too.

Rocked by jellies the other day.
#90snostalgia 

Jen Fulwiler had a great post the other day, and this particular part
really spoke to my heart.

Cheesin' for Daddy's birthday!!

Happy Birthday, Tom!

Mama and Zuzu. :)

She wanted to dive right in there!

I hope you all have such a wonderful week! I hope Spring has sprung in your neck of the woods. We don't really have a Spring here... it just goes straight into Summer-like weather. Fun times. Prayers and blessings for you!!

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Hey, did you know?

We have all been there.  Ya know, when it's time to say the Our Father at Mass.  Everyone holds hands of the person next to them.  You are there alone, not quite close enough to reach, but don't want to seem too eager and move a little closer.  So, then, because you still want to be fully engaged and connected, you hold out your hands in front of you.  The Our Father is said, the Sign of Peace happens, and, well... I think we know what happens next. ;)

It has come to my attention recently, through a good friend (ahem, my BFF Mart), after noticing that she does not participate in that way anymore, that it may not actually be liturgically sound.

Wait, wait, wait... what?

You are telling me that the way that I have participated in Mass for the last... however many years, where I have felt engaged and involved and connected, is actually not what I should be doing?  This is crazy.  My mind is being blown.

(That was written back in May 2013, and just saw it chillin' in my drafts folder. So, I thought I would finish up some thoughts on this.)

I should say, once I found this out... I stopped holding my hands out anymore and stopping holding hands during the Our Father.

And it was hard. And sad. And weird. But, I got over it.

At first I looked and looked online for where it says that in rubrics (I have since learned the fancy name), ie. the rules of the liturgy. I couldn't find anything. I wasn't using the right terminology, I guess. And then my interest faded, as the new-to-me position just became normal.

Source
Clearly, because I stopped this post a long time ago.  And then, last week, I decided on a whim to call Open Line on Catholic Radio to ask about it. And of course, just as Martha said, it is, in fact, liturgically INcorrect. The "orans position/posture", as it is called, is meant only for the priest during Mass. Why is this? Well, I don't think that I will be able to answer very well.

And, of course, now that I have the correct term to search, I find a whole bunch of stuff! Sheesh! :) But, I figured that maybe someone out there is looking for this information, too. And, those articles can explain it better than I could even try. I found a great article on EWTN, that explains more about it, but here is a tidbit:
It is a legitimate gesture to use when praying, as history shows, however, it is a private gesture when used in the Mass and in some cases conflicts with the system of signs which the rubrics are intended to protect. The Mass is not a private or merely human ceremony. The symbology of the actions, including such gestures, is definite and precise, and reflects the sacramental character of the Church's prayer. As the Holy See has recently pointed out, confusion has entered the Church about the hierarchical nature of her worship, and this gesture certainly contributes to that confusion when it conflicts with the ordered sign language of the Mass.
Anyway. So, if you have ever wondered about that. Now you know.

It is hard sometimes, still, especially when I am around people that I know, who hold hands during the Our Father... it's always a bit awkward. But, I just close my eyes, keep my hands folded and pour myself into the prayer. Because, really... that's what it's about anyway! If you wanted to be all touchy feely and handsy with me, just wait... I will be glad to give you a hug during the Sign of Peace! Yes, I like to hug, instead of shake hands. Ok, I mean... I only hug the people I know. Come on, I am not that weird.

Now, another thing that I noticed at the same time, way back when, that Mart wasn't doing, was the little crosses over the forehead, mouth and heart right before the priest reads the Gospel.  I had learned a long time ago that the significance of each little cross says "may the Gospel always be on my mind, on my lips and in my heart." I mean, that sounds good to me.

But, it, too, is one of those gestures that is for the priest or deacon reading the Gospel at Mass.  In the rubrics, it never says that we, as in the congregation, should be doing this gesture, as well. I can't really find it online, so... you can do some research on your own, or believe me. :) 'Cause, well, I am going with Mart, who knows a lot about these sorts of things, and her hubby who was in seminary for while and knows the liturgy like the back of his hand.

Well, there you have it, folks. Random information about Mass that is actually quite important. :)

Have a wonderful day!

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

But, God wanted something different.

When Martha asked if I would like to help out with the middle school and high school youth groups, I laughed. Awkwardly.

I love kids. Yes, kids... I could hang out with them all the time! Be silly. Run around like crazy. Ya know, be a kid.

But, teens?? Oh man. That's a whooooole other ball game.  I have such a hard time connecting with them. I didn't grow up with older or younger siblings where I got to witness their teen years. I only have my own to go on! And... I don't remember much!  And THEN to talk about God and Jesus and His church and all things Catholic. Oh, and make it sound cool and relatable.

Um... no, thanks.

Well, that's what I wanted to say. But, God wanted something different.

You see.  I am part of my parish. I am part of the family. I have never been part of a parish before. Up to that point I really thought I belonged because I was writing my check every week, dropping the envelope in the basket as it went by, smiling and hugging the people I knew at the end of Mass. (Ha. Such a weird sense of belonging and being part of a family.)

All the while I was thirsting for community. I was complaining that I didn't know anyone and didn't have anything to do and had such a boring life! Oh... whoa is me.

An awesome prayer service with the teens.
So, enter in Mart asking about helping with youth group. Not exactly what I had in mind... but my parish needed me. My family needed me. So, of course I said yes.  It's an interesting thing, working with the teens.  They are a crazy, hormonal, loud, beautiful, lovely, Jesus-thirsting generation. They have so many things coming at them from so many directions in their daily lives.  Who am I to help them know God better?!

I am me.  That is all they need me to be. Even if I don't know what to say or have the right answer or say something they don't think is funny, I am being me. Genuinely me. I am there for them. Loving them where they are at.  Praying for them.  Living my life the best way that I can, so they are (hopefully!) being inspired to live theirs the best way they can, too.

Around the same time, I signed up to be an Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion. It had been on my heart for a while, and I was so excited to do it. I could talk about that in it's own post, and maybe someday I will, but for now I will say it is one of the most humbling things I am privileged to do. Seriously.

It's in serving my parish in this way, I realized something. I realized that the teens need to see me as an active member of their community. Of their family. I mean, who do they see mostly? The old people and the families... right? Let's be honest, not many of us single, young people are really that involved in our parishes. First, not many of us even have one where we are registered. We hop from one place to another, depending on what's going on.  How cool is it when we see young people involved and serving their community? It's awesome!

And then I realized something else... everyone needs to see young people involved.  The more they see youngins', the more they will realize we do care. We are invested. We want to be part of the family. We want to serve you.

So, as much as I don't think I am the youth ministry "type," I will continue go every week. I will continue to be awkward. I will continue to love them. I will continue to just be me. And serve... my family. My community.

All because God wanted something different.  Does He want something different for you?

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Not Alone Series: Deal Breakers.

We have all thought about our list of qualities for our future spouse (and maybe even religious community), but sometimes those can be pretty limiting on who God has planned for you. Instead, maybe think about the few things that are so important to you, that if a guy you were considering dating (or community you were entering) didn't have those things, you would have to move on. Why are those things important to you? 



When I was in college, post re-version, sitting with my girlfriends, one of the obvious deal breakers for any potential guy that we would date, thus, marry, would be: he has to be Catholic.

I mean, that makes sense, right? If you have ever read this blog, you know how important my faith is to me. I don't just love Jesus... I believe in and love the one, holy, catholic, apostolic Church that He gave us.  So, it would seem obvious that I would want my spouse to share in and love those things, too.

But - there is always a but - can I just cut off the millions of single men in this world just because they aren't Catholic?  I am not sure I have really made up my mind, fully.  I am going to talk about some things here, and then you let me know what you think.  The topic this week (and every week) is to create conversation.... I am not saying there is a right or wrong. I am just typing out what has been in my head, thinking out loud, if you will. :)

My first inclination is to always want to date/marry a Catholic guy. It's what I am comfortable with. Someone who loves the Church, believes in Her teachings, attends Mass, etc is someone who I will already have a TON in common with.  But, I can't help but think that I am limiting God in some way if I say that I will only marry a Catholic guy.

God is an amazing God. He knows what's on my heart. He knows what's important to me, even things that I may not even know yet. He has created some amazing men out there.  And, He also knows that if I were to marry a non-Catholic dude, that guy would have to be supportive. He would not patronize my faith. He would, at least, have to love Jesus. I mean, that right there is a deal breaker in and of itself. I mean, marriage is hard. Why would I want to make it harder and marry someone that doesn't even believe in Jesus, our Savior?

I guess that's the thing... marriage will be hard. There is no question about that. I will be asking my future husband to love all of me, I will be asked to love all of him.  Imperfections and all. We are human... and we sin. But marriage calls us to love even through our sinfulness.  That is something that my husband will have to understand. It will be a choice to love each other everyday. And when things get hard, he will not be able to "throw in the towel," for a lack of a better phrase. He will have to understand the permanence of marriage... because, as far as I am concerned, divorce isn't really an option.  Oh! And kids! That to get married, two become one... and that usually results in a babe. Or 12. ;)

So, who can fill all of those things?? The single Catholic guys?? Well, some of them... but most definitely not all of them.  We all know, not everyone agrees with all the teachings of the church or loves the Church like I do.  There are many non-Catholic Christians who believe as the Church does on many things, so would it be prudent of me to just discount all of them?  Probably not.

A good friend from college, who is a wonderfully, devout Catholic women, has been dating (and will most likely marry) a non-Catholic guy. This blew my mind! I just never thought that this particular friend would be the one to marry someone who wasn't Catholic! It was so interesting to talk to her about it. She is still so in love with the Church, and he allows her to live out her faith, just as she always has. It really got me thinking about what is important to me. Could I really date/marry a non-Catholic guy? Is that what God is calling me to do?

It would then come into play the role of the sacramental life (ya know, sharing the Eucharist, confession, etc together) within a marriage. Some stand by that 100%. Some don't think it's absolutely necessary. There are plenty of wonderful non-Catholic marriages in this world, that would prove a sacramental life isn't necessary. But, is it to me? That is the question. And, again... my first response is this: duh. Obviously.

And so we start back at the beginning. It would seem at first glance that I have made up my mind. A deal breaker would have be: not being Catholic.  But, there is still that but...

And I don't really know where to go from here. :)

Lest you think I only think of the serious things... other deal breakers include: wanting me to massage feet, doesn't like to laugh, no ability to dance, snores or chews with mouth open. Annnnd I'm only kidding. ... or am I? ;)

What about you?! Tell us and link up below!

Next Week!
Beginning of the Year Goals + Lent!
Remember our first post this year? How are the goals you set going? Regardless of how your goals are going, how are you utilizing this Lent to continue to strive for those goals?

April 8
Do's and Don'ts of First Dates
What are those things that we should be doing, and the things that we shouldn't be doing? They can be from the physical parts (clothes to wear, places to go, things to say) or emotional parts (talking about it all the time, planning the future, etc). We can all learn something in hindsight, so what are your tips to share?

April 15
Selfish Singles
How do you combat being selfish with your time? As a single person, it's easy to get caught up in our own little independent world. There are those moments when we are needed for extra church things, hanging with our friend's kids, getting caught up with something on the one night you could stay in, etc. where we get frustrated that the needs of others are taking away from our own time. How do you avoid this selfish tendency and what do you do to avoid becoming frustrated with "sharing" your time with others?

April 22
Marriage
Most of us here feel called to the vocation of marriage...but what is it exactly that you're attracted to? What have you seen in others' marriages that you've learned from or would do differently? (maybe this is from married friends or your parents!)


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