NAS: Expectations vs Reality

Have you ever had people in your life who have expectations of what your life is like, as a single person? Do friends or family ever make assumptions about your life simply because you're unmarried? Did you ever have expectations about being single which turned out to be different than the reality? How do you manage the expectations of others with the reality of your day-to-day?





Please forgive me! Martha's baby was born yesterday, so my blog was the last thing on my mind!! Please keep Mart, Tom, Zuzu and baby David in your prayers as they continue to transition to a beautiful family of 4! :)

Link up below!


NEXT WEEK!
Challenge Check-in!
A couple weeks ago, we set to challenge ourselves! What did you decide on and what did you end up doing? Was this a fruitful experience for you? Why or why not?

April 14
Christian Friendship
What does it mean to be a friend based in Christ? Do Christian friends hold each other higher? Do we hold each other accountable? How do these friendships differ from non-Christian based friendships? Do they differ? Is one better than the other?


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She has done a good thing for me.


Can you imagine being the woman who anointed Jesus with oil when he says, "she has done a good thing for me" (Mark 14:6)?!

Just take a second to let that sink in. You are standing right next to Jesus, you put yourself out there and anoint his forehead with a precious oil, and are being questioned by others for doing such a thing, and then, Jesus defends you, "she has done a good thing for me."

Whoa.

We desire this most, don't you think? I know I do. To meet Jesus face to face, as he looks back on my entire life, for him to say, "she has done a good thing for me." To which I am sure I would start balling and fall to his feet.

Today, as I reflect on the Palm Sunday readings (hello, Blessed is She!), it's a mixed bag of emotions, right? So close to Easter!! The pretty palms! Jesus is here! Oh, but then... pain. And suffering. And heartbreak. There is no way to get to Easter without His death. We have to go through it. We need to go through it.

I am overwhelmed thinking about how I am going to enter into Holy Week more deeply. My instinctive, human nature doesn't want to think about doing anything too crazy or too radical or too... painful. Because, who would?!

Jesus would. And, he did. He knew it would be painful, yet because the Father asked him to, he obeyed. He followed through with the worst kind of suffering there is. The craziest, most radical and most painful of deaths. Out of love for his people. For sinners. For you. For me.

I will be reflecting for the rest of the day how, exactly, I am going to push aside my selfish ways this week and offer them up to Him. I am a little nervous, but I know that Easter is coming right up. Through this suffering, we still have hope.

How will you be entering more deeply this Holy Week? Let's share, so we can continue to encourage and inspire one another! And, of course hope that our precious Lord will say,

She has done a good thing for me.


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Lent Check-in {NAS}

We're more than half way through Lent... how's it going?! What did you decide to give up/take up? Did you make any spiritual goals? How have you grown thus far and how do you hope to make the most of the remainder of the season?


Via


Oh, Lent. You have been a doozy this year. That's for darn sure. 

There just seems to be so much going on this Lent; from personal sufferings to those of friends to those of the world. I'm not sure why after all of these years, this is the year that satan is rearing his ugly head ALL up in my grill, but dude... give it a rest.

Amongst all of that crazy, I still find hope. I still find the good. Easter IS coming.

And that is a beautiful thing. 

Another beautiful thing? My discipline with things I said I was going to do. My new (I hope it continues!) habit, that has become my favorite part of the day is my morning devotional time with the Blessed is She Lenten Journal. I get up earlier so that I can enjoy some sweet sips of coffee, while reflecting and journaling on the Word. It's simply amazing. I know I will reap the benefits of this new habit over and over again. 

Via- my Insta :)
I've also given up social media during the workday.  - - <-- that is a face... does it look like a face?! ANYway... yes. Social media at work was filling up WAY more time in my day than I care to admit. So, it was time for it to take a backseat. Um, harder than I was expecting. Blah.

I am also saying the Litany of the Sacred Heart right before bed. I've been pretty good with this- it's such a beautiful and wonderful reminder of how amazing and tender our Lord's heart is.

Working on some other things, but I won't bore you with those. :)

Overall, while my Lent has been intense in ways that I wasn't expecting, it really has been amazing. One of my goals this Lent was to return to God with my whole heart (Joel 2:12). Do I think I have achieved this totally? Not necessarily, but I have given Him what I can. Each day. 

And because he is an ever-patient God, he waits. Every day. For my whole heart.

Just as He waits for yours.

How is YOUR Lent going?! Share with us by writing your own post, sharing in our FB group or commenting on our blogs! We really want to know how things are going for you!

Link up over at Morgan's!




NEXT WEEK!
March 31
Expectations vs Reality... of the Single Life
Have you ever had people in your life who have expectations of what your life is like, as a single person? Do friends or family ever make assumptions about your life simply because you're unmarried? Did you ever had expectations about being single which turned out to be different than the reality? How do you manage the expectations of others with the reality of your day-to-day?

April 7
Challenge Check-in!
A couple weeks ago, we set to challenge ourselves! What did you decide on and what did you end up doing? Was this a fruitful experience for you? Why or why not?

April 14
Christian Friendship
What does it mean to be a friend based in Christ? Do Christian friends hold each other higher? Do we hold each other accountable? How do these friendships differ from non-Christian based friendships? Do they differ? Is one better than the other?




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NAS: It's Challenge Time, again, folks!


It's that time again! In the past we've challenged ourselves to grow and/or take steps toward moving closer to our vocation. These challenges have come in all different forms! Being active with online dating, getting more involved in young adult ministry/parish life, and working on bettering my prayer life have been personal challenges. What is one thing you want to challenge yourself to do that might help you along your path toward's God's will... or maybe just help you become more open to God's will?
Share what your plan is and why, then in 2 weeks we'll write on how this challenge went!!


Looking back on what I challenged myself with TWO Summers ago- getting more involved with my parish... I have been pretty successful! :) With youth group, Eucharistic Ministry, Young Adult Programs, RCIA as a sponsor... ya know, along with, spending time with friends, trying to keep my house decent, etc... man! I am busy! :)

For so long of my time here in FL, I have desired to be busy and to have a community and have things to do. And God has blessed me. Abundantly.

I have made some beautiful friendships that I will cherish for the rest of my life. I have grown closer to God. I have met new people. I have been humbled. I have been so grateful. So, so grateful! :)

In doing all of these things, my biggest challenge has been balancing my time! It's funny when the things you pray for and desire most happen, and THEN it can seem like too much! While I love being involved with so many things and feeling like I belong, I have come to realize how burned out I feel, too. Almost every single night I am doing something. Sounds great! I know. It is!

But, it's also draining. And I've lost sight of why I am doing what I am doing in many realms. Does that make sense? I have been doing all of these things, yes for myself, but really for other people, too. Being involved in ministries is giving of yourself to that ministry/those people, and what I have realized is that I need to figure out a way for me to be reenergized. I need to step back and remind myself that I don't have to do all.the.things. at the same time.

It's ok to take a break.

It's ok to do something for yourself.

And that's how I am challenging myself. :)

I want to do one thing per week just for myself, whether is be time in adoration, going for a run, blogging without distractions, meeting up to chat with a friend, etc... one thing that I am not obligated to do by the things I am involved with. Just one thing that I can do... for me. :)

Will you pray for me? Will you help me?

What is your challenge?! How are you feeling called to grow closer to God these days?!

Can't wait to hear!!! Linkup below and share with us!




NEXT WEEK!
Lent
We're more than half way through Lent... how's it going?! What did you decide to give up/take up? Did you make any spiritual goals? How have you grown thus far and how do you hope to make the most of the remainder of the season?

March 31
Expectations vs Reality... of the Single Life
Have you ever had people in your life who have expectations of what your life is like, as a single person? Do friends or family ever make assumptions about your life simply because you're unmarried? Did you ever had expectations about being single which turned out to be different than the reality? How do you manage the expectations of others with the reality of your day-to-day?

April 7
Challenge Check-in!
A couple weeks ago, we set to challenge ourselves! What did you decide on and what did you end up doing? Was this a fruitful experience for you? Why or why not?

April 14
Christian Friendship
What does it mean to be a friend based in Christ? Do Christian friends hold each other higher? Do we hold each other accountable? How do these friendships differ from non-Christian based friendships? Do they differ? Is one better than the other?


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Therapy is awesome.

A little over a year ago, I made a phone call.

A phone call that would change my life.

I reached out to a therapist.



Yep. A therapist. *gasp*

You guys, perhaps you remember... I was not in a good place. I was on a seriously large struggle bus, for a long time, and I didn't know how to get off of it. Dare, I say... I was depressed.

What I realized in 2014 is this: God took care of me in a way that I wasn't really expecting. He put people in my life when I needed them to be there. To help me. To love me. To remind me of His goodness.

One of those people is my therapist.

Thank you, Jesus, for that man. God bless him. Seriously.

I've been working with him for the last year... and I am in a COMPLETELY different place. It's seriously amazing. It has not been an easy road... nor do I look back fondly on all of the conversations. It's hard to let go, to talk about things that you've never talked about before, face your insecurities and doubts head on and cry. A lot.

But, I have learned so much. I have grown so much.

And, I want to remind myself (and you!) that it's ok to talk to a therapist. 

There have been many, many times throughout the last year that I have really beaten myself up for talking to Dr. P, and wondered if I really am crazy. What 29/30 year old still has all of these issues? Who is going to love me once they know that I have all of this baggage? Perhaps these incoherent, stringed together words are a sign there is something really wrong with me! Who holds on to things that happened when they were so young?

Things like that. Things that satan is trying to twist to make me feel like I am so wounded and so broken that nothing/no one will be able to help me. It's a lie. A complete and total lie.

Many times I have to keep repeating that to myself, especially after the sessions when it was really hard. Where there was lots of crying. And even more questions. I am enough. Nothing is too big or too deep that the grace of God can't heal and make new. 

Nothing.

I am sharing this to help wash away the stigma that therapy is only for crazy people. I mean, we all have a little crazy in us (!), but just because we seek counseling doesn't mean we are weird or worthless or less than. We all desire to be the best person God called us to be and that may require some outside help. The reality is this: life is hard, sometimes, and we all have wounds. There are times when we have to open up those wounds so they can heal properly. To talk about the areas of our lives that we choose not to share. To learn more about ourselves in a way that is constructive, intentional and healthy. God has called many people to help us do just that.

If you are feeling like you need to speak to someone, please do. Pray about it. Talk to your parish priest. Your spiritual director. A close friend. Anyone that you can trust who will encourage you to talk to someone. If you don't have someone, email me. :)

Will you continue to pray for me?! I'll be praying for you.



Here are some resources that may help you find someone:
Catholic Therapists
Exceptional Marriages


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